Acknowledge your feelings. You never have to justify your feelings to anyone and you can’t force yourself to be happy because of the holiday season.
Reach out. If you feel depressed lonely or isolated, seek out community, spiritual or other social events, also seek out professional help. Your phone and computer are for more than texting, call or skype with someone. Get connected.
Be realistic. The holidays don’t have to be perfect. Let go of expectations and see what happens.
Set aside differences. Try to accept people as they are, not everyone can live up to your expectations, also share your expectations with them. It is there path and if they really do make it horrible for you then you have the right to not be around them. Put yourself first.
Be understanding. If others get upset or distressed when something goes awry. Chances are they’re feeling the effects of holiday stress and depression, too.
Stick to a budget. Before you go gift and food shopping. My grandmother told me one that love and affection is the greatest gift you can give someone.
Plan ahead. Set aside specific days for shopping, baking, visiting friends and other activities. Plan your menus and then make your shopping list.
Learn to say no. Don’t commit to anything that will overwhelm you or you really don’t want to do. Put yourself first.
Stay healthy. Don’t abandon your healthy routines, eat well and sensible, exercise and schedule time for yourself to do nothing but relax.
Seek Help. Seek out help from friends, family and professionals. Don’t try to handle it all yourself.