We go into the fire
thinking it is
the fountain of truth.
The fire whispers, drink my
sweet water, ignore the sparks.

We burn away
not understanding
that fire and water
are the same
when you are
One with All.

“I encourage people to remember that “No” is a complete sentence.” ~ Gavin de Becker

1. Identify current boundary crossers
The first step in setting healthy boundaries is identifying who it is that is the boundary crosser. How does this person make you feel? Most likely, telling this person how you feel will get you no where. They may even get satisfaction from hearing your plea. Remember, it is not uncommon for boundary crossers to be very purposeful in their boundary crossing behavior. This means they often know that they are doing it! If you feel taken advantage of, oppressed or bullied, it is important to make the conscious decision to change how you are interacting with them. Keep in mind, none of this will happen overnight. But, it definitely won’t happen unless you decide with the utmost conviction that something needs to change.

2. Consider how your past influences your present
Were you taught to set healthy boundaries? If…

When life on the surface

became too much,

I found there was

immediate relief

in turning inward,

sinking down

past the thoughts

of how things should be,

resetting to a state

of prayer,

and refocusing

in the present moment

as it appeared —

holding, honoring

and letting go

until it became

something beautiful.

Always, this surrender to

a deeper me

was more satisfying

and more tender

than any experience

I could have created

alone.